It’s been two weeks since I have last “seen” my girlfriend Hy. If you can’t tell by the title or the fact I put the word seen in quotations. It means me and her are trying to have Long Distance Relationship. I felt like this was going to end up happening, as neither of us wanted to leave each other. So, we’re trying to make it work. I wish there was a magic formula or some type of rubric that could be followed so we could know how to do this, but there is not, so we just take it day by day. It’s just been interesting to know so many people have or are currently going through this and getting advice from them. The best advice I got was being able to stay independent. Not relying fully on them or needing someone else to fill that “hole” in your heart. I’m not going to lie the 1st few days were hard but it has gotten better. The key (for me) is just making sure to stay interested in one another and know even though they are far away that they are still as important in your life. The current title image is a screencap from a video I did for her with my friends. Right now I’m only sending her silly things I make on the computer, but soon I might ship a few things to her that will remind her of me. Although I think the most important thing is planning to see one another again It gives you something to look forward to even if it’s not in the near future. She always told me that I didn’t have to come back to South Korea to see her; that she would come to see me in America and I believe her. In these moments of LDR all, you really have is the truth behind your words and your belief in theirs. We’re no longer physically together so I have no clue what she does daily nor does she have any idea what I do daily. It’s just a hope and belief that their truth lines up with life’s reality. I will say it has not been an easy start with worries the other will find someone in their respective areas. A person that can be there fully because neither of us can currently. Although like I told her as long as we keep talking regularly and keep each other in our hearts and minds we’ll do fine, because that’s all we got right now. It’s like being on a metaphorical roller coaster and wanting to get off, but finding solace that someone you care for is right beside you going through the same thing even though there scared as well.
Or Pimping Myself Out
Hy has a pretty large social following and knowing that and being a millennial whose ego is connected to how many internet people admire his work got her to post it on her social media, and WOW it blow up. June has been the most view month with almost 500 views on my blog that’s bananas. The crazier thing is although most of them came from Korea there were places I didn’t even think of. They were all reading my tiny little blog. Still to this day South Korea views are higher than American views. Thank You all and thank you Hy. I hope some of you stay around to watch my journey continue.
So I wouldn’t say I’m crazy or religious, but sometimes I talk to the “universe.” It’s just kind of me looking up at the ceiling or sky and just saying stuff hoping that something or whatever will hear me and my words and sway me in the right direction of success. The other thing I like to do a lot is day dream, especially over-exaggerate dreams about things I want to happen like picking a winning lotto ticket from the ground or someone off the street offering me a job. In retrospect it seems like pretty basic stuff but, they usually involved around me staying longer. When I told her of all my silly fantasies, she said something along the lines of there’s no more magic because it was all used to bring us together. It brought me so much joy when she said that. I couldn’t tell her she’s a liar cause we all know if you still believe in magic there’s always some to spare. HEY UNIVERSE, GOD, AND ANYONE READING THIS do you have a job for me that would involve me going to South Korea, Japan or anywhere in East Asia? I am well verse in Adobe products such as Premier, Photoshop and after effects. I know how to blog, vlog and take photographs as seen on my Flickr. I’m well versed in stringing words together in a coherent fashion as seen on my blog. My grammar is sometimes lacking, but I get better with every writing. I’m also a friendly and personable person to be around Hy thinks I’m 99% perfect (most important to know), so you know I motivation to perform well because of her to stay longer. I’m just putting this out there. I’ll look forward to your offers. I can be reached at “NC2SK@gmail.com” (Fake) or “email@example.com” (Real)
So let me start off by apologizing as I was 15 days late with this one, but as it got closer to the end, it became increasingly hard to write these posts with my mind constantly on the “impending doom” right around the corner. I’m sorry once again if this was supposed to be a professional blog I could not allow my emotions deter me from getting my work done. Anyway, last month was filled with laughs and hardships. I cried for a week straight the week of finals. I think it was because it was the beginning of the end. The school was the largest chunk of time there and now that it’s over, all I had was 20 days left (19 because you can’t count the day you’re flying out). Those 20 days I did so much and so little. Week 1: was mostly spent hanging out with all from campus that were leaving that week so almost a farewell dinner each day. I also had a dinner with Hy and her roommate that was fun we ate at some local restaurants near there home, and I played in the nearby playground.I had also have convinced Sim (from the B.P.C.) to stay three extra days which was nice having him around. I saw him off at the airport subway line. One of the last few things he told me was he was “I’m going back in time to save the future.” Week 2: I walked around my area of the city Guro, which is a lot more residential compared to where Sogang in Sinchon was. It was a lovely area it just was annoying the stop it was on is one stop transfer, and the transfer is from the busiest subway stops. Somedays it was stressful being on a super packed train to go home. Sadly I had broke my camera, so I no longer have one, but Hy to the rescue let me use her’s. It was a DSLR I loved and hated it. My original camera was so small it could fit in my pocket, but the DLSR had to be worn around your neck coupled with the fact the I usually wore my backpack around the city I felt like a mega tourist. I also got sick for about three days and was stuck indoors which were not fun. Hy took me to the doctors and explained my situation the best way possible converting what I told her into Korean. the doctor sprayed something in my nose and mouth I was confused. Hy told me to stop complaining but, I just more confused because random sprays like that don’t happen in the states, but something that also doesn’t occur in the states is a cheap medical bill with no insurance. For the visit and medicine it all 25 dollars. She told me how last year she spent around 2000+ for a 4-hour stay in the hospital and a CT scan for food poisoning. I was like it would be for an American easier to fly overseas and get medical treatment at least that way you can see the world. Week 3: Was the hardest but still very fun at this point everyone I hung out with from campus was gone except my two friends Cl and Ty. Ty had just come back from Japan the week prior and needed a place to stay because he showed back up on a Friday, and all the hostels were packed. He would have been homeless for a night if it weren’t for me, so he chilled with me one night and got a hostel for the rest of his stay. I saw him and Cl once again Tuesday because it was Ty’s “final” day, so we walked around Hongdae for about 2 and a half hours looking for food. The reason it took so long is that I had already eaten, so I didn’t care where we went, and the other two couldn’t figure it out, so I was dragged along for the ride. one that I didn’t mind. This past Thursday, which was my last 24 hours I met up with CL to walk campus one last time. On a whim texted my two favorite people from the abyss club whom just happened to be on campus due to summer classes. We spent about any hour reminiscing about things that happened this semester it was grand. Then we finally all went our separate ways, and I met up with Hy where she took me to dinner, and we ended the night riding a bus up the same mountain that overlooks the city as we did on our 1st official date. Tears were around it was so special. My final day we woke up early got dressed skyped my parents and went to the post office to ship a large box although it was too large to send by boat, so we had to scramble and rearrange all the stuff into smaller boxes for boat shipping. After that, we taxied over to the airport subway line and talked about our future and handling being away from each other she told me she was going to see me next month which I was always on the fence until I see a ticket, but it was all I had to hold on to. we also talked about her fears of becoming a U.S. citizen, and I told her I would do my best to help her out and because all my family is Americans could be an excellent resource as well. She said that when American do “small talk” it’s an odd concept to grasp. We got to the airport and I checked in what I didn’t realize was there was no time left to sit and chat so when Hy said you have to go now I let out the most gut wrenching and sorrowful “NO.” We stood there and hugged and kissed and cried telling each other we would see each other next month and walked away where she waved at me until I was no longer visible in the security lines. On the plane ride home, I wrote a lot of things down, but the most important aspect to me was I was going to try my hardest to make things work “just because I’m not longer there doesn’t mean I will stop acting like your boyfriend.” After multiple flights, I got to hug my parents once more and thanked them multiple times for allowing me to have such an experience. I’ve already started sending tons of photos to Hy and messaging her. only time will tell what is next for us and me.
Other titles are: Two times the Crazy or Crazy X-Squared or Crazy X 2
I’ve only been back two days and have already started planning various ways of how to get overseas next year; It’s not possible right now. Being as my back account is somewhere between poor and dirt poor. Although it’s okay, I had gone to my job yesterday, so I could relearn a few things and show my passion for being back. While I was there, I joked with some of the long time members who knew me that “I spent everyone else money over there now it’s time to use my own to get back.” I thought about setting up one of those “Crowdfunding” Services to help my cause. I read a quote once somewhere on the internet that “how you get/stay rich is by using other people’s money,” And you know this blogger right here can spin his reality into the saddest of stories. A young man fresh out of South Korea having to Leave someone he considered “love” only to not know when they will meet again. I call it “compassionate begging,” but I rather not. There’s something about earning your money that makes it all worth it in the end you know? When I paid the school program, it was one of my proudest moments because I earned it with those long hours at the pool. Although I did set up a PayPal donation service whether or not I link it to my blog will be at my discretion. That’s all I have been thinking about is money because the soon I can get some is the sooner I can put it to “work.” I feel like an addict but motivated. For this to work I can’t be walking anymore I have to run, but only that but my fear is that will I burn out or the person whose currently fueling my fire will be they no longer want to see me. The only things I have currently in my mind is School, Japanese, Money, and Her. That’s what I’m working for until the then end of next year. Thankful my current job was kind enough to put me back on the schedule now that I’m back, but it’s a seasonal job I must figure out something to do for the school semester and so on. I have odd hours next semester so looking for something a little but flexible might be difficult, but difficult doesn’t mean impossible. Now here’s where the Double Down On Crazy part comes in. This Monday I plan to go to my study abroad office on campus and ask them if I can do the next year’s extensive summer language program in Japan as the one I am studying. I told a couple of people this, and they think I’m rather crazy (ergo the title), but I there’s no better time I’ll be fresh off of the language classes why not dive into the culture and keep it going? One of the Few things I’ve to Hy is right now it’s all just words to her, to me and anyone out there reading this, but at least it’s an idea that as been manifested all I got to do now is but it into action wish me luck. I will need all the positivity possible.
I’m writing this a week in advance before my leaving because being in this space (Seoul) allows for that inspiration to flow still. I’ll most likely keep the blog running for the 1st month after I come back. The posts then will be more adjustment stuff to back American life, friends and family reactions and how Hy and I are doing now that were 10,000+ miles apart. If anything else happens related to my travel abroad or trying to go back overseas, I will try to write upon it, but after August 8 don’t expect much more posts after that. My current life goal (besides to graduate college) is getting back over seas no later than December of the next year 2017. I guess you can say I plan out my new year’s revolution way far in advance…
One of Seoul’s most tourist-packed areas but also one of the most breathtaking ones at that. Seoul Tower is one of those things you have to do as it’s a part of an unwritten checklist of tourist sights to stop. There’re two ways to get up to Seoul Tower one you ride the cable car all the way to the top (10$ roundtrip) or do an almost mile hike to the top (Free). I suggest the mile walk cause so many don’t hike up, so they’re fewer people around, and you still get fantastic views own the way up and down. You miss out on all the surrounding nature when just cable car to the top. Once you get to the top, though, that’s when it becomes jammed packed with people all trying for the best photos on the railings, so you got to slide your way through. All these tourists trying to take pictures was annoying to me (although I was doing it too). I felt people were just looking for the best picture to take instead of soaking in the view. Still being at the top was magical all the people there and seeing the whole view of Seoul it was unbelievable. Now at the top there’s a couple of things you can do eat cause their are restaurants, there shops, you can go up Seoul tower for a higher view (20$) or lastly if you are doing this romantically there a bunch of locks at the top all with names on them. Buy one and put it there is supposed to signify an active forever bond between the two people. I suggest ever going to Seoul do it.
What’s the best way to explain this, it’s a district that’s gigantic for selling products, like almost any product you can think of they had it. From clothes, food and electronics all in either mid condition to new you could find it there. It’s basically a giant flea market. Although with these types of places comes some level of secrecy as some shop owners don’t allow you to take photos of their stand as it might have fake, stolen, replica or bootlegged items. I asked Hy why the cops don’t shut them down? She said it’s not that serious of an issue. Saying don’t question where the item came from, and you’ll be okay. Although in the past around the 70/80’s there was something called ghost market (DoKKaeBi ShiJang 도깨비시장) it sold items from the U.S. Army base usually ration packs and due to it being highly illegal. When the cops showed up, they vanish. Also in the area was a toy/action figure area selling toys at significant discounts.
Somethings I’ve found. So Hy said people just simply call it “mp3 player for seniors.” It got a bunch of preset songs for ease of access. Although not all of the songs on it maybe be licensed for use.
Imports are also a big thing here and usually your paying high prices for them but I was shocked to see this Hershey’s chocolate sauce being sold for only a dollar. Now it dose go bad in about a month (8/2) and where I found it the bottles were sitting out in the sun, but I still think it’s a steal all thing considered.
DoKKaeBi– a ghost-like a creature with a giant hammer and has a horn. He brings gifts to humans (sometimes)
ShiJang- traditional market
I’m usually not for out sourcing but in this case I will have to as I don’t have continuous access or knowledge of Korean media to do an in depth look on it. What I do know is Korean Censorship is slightly odd. Knives and tattoos are blurred, but knives are only blurred in a violent manner yet can still be used a murder weapon. So what’s the purpose !? This YouTube video is by people whom have lived in Korea for several years. It’s supposed to be a little bit more on the humorous side but still get information across. enjoy
The cool thing about Seoul is you can’t ever get truly lost while walking, well, at least if your walk has no destination. I, for the most part, will just walk the city and listen to podcasts, and as they’re long, I always have something stimulating during the walks. It’s been so much fun just picking a random direction and walking it. I used to get worried when I would walk the cluster of the inner streets, but like rivers when you follow them they’ll lead you to a large body of water (don’t quote me on that). Similarly, the smaller inner streets will lead you back to the main streets that have street signs or subway stops. Normally what I do is walk until I get bored or tired then walk a little bit longer to a random subway stop then ride it back home or if my walk didn’t pull that far way from home use the street signs that point back to campus. The architecture of the city is just amazing. They are steadily building here which is a good and bad thing. Not to get into too much detail is while they build all this new stuff there neglecting the old leaving it to decay and become run down. What nature is left in Seoul is being carved out for newer housing instead of demolishing these older parts of the city and rebuilding it, but I’m not a city planner or any person that would have that type of information this is just my off-topic opinion. Regardless Seoul’s a cool place to walk around.